The Subtle Power Games We All Play…


The Power Games We Play

From the dawn of time, people have been playing power games with one another.

Granted, most of us are unaware that we do it, but it does not change the fact that these power games are depleting our powers, and are the cause of many human disagreements, messy entanglements and suffering.

Once, a friend told me that he doesn’t like to visit his girlfriend’s daughter and her family too often.
When I asked why, he said that he cannot stand their constant fighting.

This surprised me, since I knew the couple and they seemed to be very mellow, young and very loving.
They had two young and very sweet children, and both of them were avid cyclists and lovers of the outdoors.

“It is not that they yell or fight out loud,” my friend said, “It’s all the competitive power games that they play with one another that is utterly exhausting to be around.“

People play subtle power games with one another and most of the time, they do so completely unconsciously.

If you have ever seen a British person resort in a conversation to speaking in her most posh accent, you are witnessing a power game in which she is asserting that her background and education are equal to or higher than the person to whom she is speaking.

You can see it in the way a pretty woman flutters her eyes or plays with her hair, when she wishes to attract attention to herself or to assert her youth and beauty.

You can see power games when someone does not let another get a word in edgewise in a conversation, dominating the “exchange” and commanding the energy.

You can see power games when a friend asks you a question, and then stops listening the moment you formulate your thoughts in order to answer.

You can see power games when friends and family members manipulate you to do things that you do not wish to do.

There are endless examples of subtle power games.
I advise you to become aware of them and to notice the situations in which you yourself are the one playing power games.

Awareness is power.
You do not want to diminish your powers by dimming down your insights.
It is best to become aware and to see those power games, and thus to choose NOT to play them, and to heal yourself.

I want to take you deeper into WHY we all play subtle powers game with one another.

I also wish to say that these power games deplete our own vital energy force, damage our subtle physical body and that as soon as we become able to recognize patterns of behaviors that are damaging, we are then able to stop participating in those games and to start RESTORING our subtle bodies, from behaviors which slowly but surely are deteriorating our physical bodies.

The question is……. WHY?…..
WHY do we play power games with everyone?
Why do friends, lovers and couples in a loving marriage all play power games?
Why do we play unconscious power games with our brothers and sisters, parents, friends, and neighbors?

You may not like the answer…….

When you are READY to understand and embrace the Truth, you will actually LOVE the answer, and it will empower you to reach great heights.

But most people are not ready to HEAR the Truth, so…..allow me to take you by the hand, and start with the obvious.
Let us start walking into the shallow water by the edge of the ocean, before we dive deep into the great unknown.

The obvious answer is that people play power games because they want something they perceive they need or that will make them feel better.

Look at a person who feels the need to assert her higher education or high social position to others.
She might be feeling insecure about her life right NOW, and so she wishes to state to her listeners as well as to the world, that she is NOT a “has been,” but a well-educated women with a sharp mind.

Nobody but her own inner sabotage has even suggested that she was a “has been” or an old woman.
It is her own cruel inner voice that she is hearing, that gives birth to feelings of inadequacy that make her want to “flex her muscles,” to show that she is still powerful.

In effect, what she is saying is:
“I might look gray and old, but behind this old and rapidly decaying body, there is a refined woman who has done much in her life and is still very capable in many ways!”

An older man who has a need to assert his powers, or to display his money to a woman he is interested in, is actually saying:
“I may not look as handsome or as masculine as some of the guys in your gym, but I am powerful, capable and rich, and I can offer you a great life if you choose me!”

When an old mother makes her daughter cry from frustration, why is she doing this? What power games is she playing?

She might be feeling forgotten and powerless, scared and lost.
She wants to feel powerful, so she picks up the phone and calls her daughter.
By doing so, she is no longer an old woman living in a nursing home waiting for death, but she is back to her role as a powerful mother.

Even if all she can do nowadays is to make her daughter cry from guilt, sadness and frustration, she is still likely to put down the phone feeling a surge of energy that she mistakes for power.

Perhaps the oldest power game on the planet is the sexual game between men and women.

Historically, men have oppressed women, and they still do so in most of the world.

It is only in the past hundred years or so, and only in the “modern countries,” that women have gotten the right to earn an education, the right to vote, to own property and to participate in the political system.

A woman used to be considered the legal property of her father, until she was given in marriage to another man, to “serve” as his wife.

In some cultures, men were allowed to take numerous wives, who lived as sexual slaves and servants, competing between themselves as to who will be the “favorite.”

Women’s comfort, well being and feelings, did not count for much.
Women needed to protect themselves and their children, so they HAD to develop powers in order to manipulate men and compete with other women.

The first set of powers that women learned to master were those of intuition, or the “Second Attention,” which includes the psychic power to see what is not seen or heard by the physical senses.

Later on, women learned how to use their femininity, their youth and beauty, to manipulate men to get better jobs, or even to be granted what should have been considered basic human rights.

Since the dawn of time, women have developed the power to manipulate men through sex.

Men are much less interested in sex than they would like to believe.
Men’s sexual organs were designed in a simpler and straightforward manner, to produce a quick and simple sensory pleasure.

Women’s sexual organs on the other hand, were designed with a much more elaborate and hidden sensory and sensual plethora of receptors.

This means that women are actually designed to be more sexually sophisticated beings than men.

So why is it that we have commonly believed that men are much more interested in sex than they actually are?
It is because women have manipulated men to believe that they are the ones who desire and need them.
In fact, women have programmed men to desire them in order to raise their own currency, and so to have a better life.

Women have led men to believe that they were the hunters, and that women were the prize.
A woman’s beauty was considered her currency, often helping to raise her and even all of her family, out of poverty.

Nowadays, many sexual games are done unconsciously.
Young women have been systematically trained since girlhood, by observing their mothers and older sisters, to play manipulative games.

Women need to see that attracting sexual energy from men can harm their subtle energetic bodies.

I often think that the only time that it is useful to attract sexual energy to you is right before you intend to have a sexual interaction with your partner.

What’s the use of looking sexy when you rush down the road at night to catch the bus?
Why would you want to attract sexual energy and lustful looks, when you are on a mountain hike or in a business meeting?

Unsolicited sexual energy is often loaded with aggression, and those energies blend into your feminine aura and deplete its juiciness and suppleness.

The power games between men and women do not stop even after many years of marriage, in which both the man and the woman have depleted their subtle bodies so much, that sex is no longer in the equation anyway.

The power games between married couples continue even after they have grown old together.
They keep playing the same power games, only now it is about what kind of yogurt to buy, or how much money they should lend to their kids, or why you always forget to put the milk in the fridge after you put it in your coffee…..

Why do we play power games unconsciously with one another?

We play power games because we have a NEED to feel powerful and to move energy around.

For too long, we have believed that we are mortal physical and finite beings.
This belief has made us powerless, depressed and feeling impotent.

When we can make things happen and demonstrate that we can shift energy around, we remember instinctively that we are NOT just physical mortals, but that we are actually….. VERY VERY POWERFUL GODS….

Allow me to explain….

During the history of humankind, people have gotten glimpses of the Divine in humans.
A mortal man who appeared to be just like us, suddenly wrote poetry and prose that were SO inspired, we had to admit that the SPIRIT had entered him.

In Greek Mythology, we assigned names to those inspirational Spirits and called them Gods: the God of poetry, the Goddess of the three phases of the moon, the God of war, the God of power, the Goddess of beauty etc.

It was believed that when one was possessed with a war-like spirit, Ares, the God of war, had taken over his consciousness.

In the ancient Ayuvedic healing tradition which originated in Persia and in India, it is believed that human beings are divided into three “Doshas,” three groups of archetypes.
The Doshas are divided by physical or bodily attributes, and by behavioral tendencies.

A person can have more than one Dosha and often we have all three, but one of the Doshas is usually more dominant.

The Doshas are called “Kapha,” “Vata,” and “Pita,” and each favors certain foods and conditions, like hot or cold weather, fast or slow movement, fiery or cool temperatures, etc.

It is believed that a person with a certain dominant Dosha can tolerate eating more spicy food than a person with another dominant Dosha, who needs to eat more “Satvic” (pure) foods with more gentle fruit juices, no garlic, etc.

It is believed that when a person gets sick, it is because their Doshas are out of balance.
In order to restore a person to balance, a special diet and behavioral changes are recommended, along with massages, light therapy and music.

In a similar manner, it is commonly believed by some New Age people, that when a women or man gets dispirited, depressed, aged, uninterested in sex or is terminally ill, it is because they have lost sight of their inner radiant God or Goddess.

In women, it is commonly referred to as the “Loss of Aphrodite,” the Greek Goddess of love, beauty, pleasure, sexuality and procreation, whose Roman counterpart is Venus.

In men, it is believed that aged, fat, wrinkled and dispirited men have lost sight of their own inner Adonis or Dionysus.

People lose their Spirit by constantly dimming down the glow of their True inner light.

When a person repeatedly tells themselves they are powerless, they become more and more so until there is nothing left.

But the playing field of the Gods is MUCH bigger, full of more possibilities than we currently realize.

You see, Aphrodite is only one Goddess in the Greek pantheon, which includes hundreds of minor gods and goddesses, beyond the twelve major gods.

The Romans, the Japanese, the Norse, the Hindus and all over the world, cultures have their own pantheons of gods, in which each God or goddess symbolizes the embodiment of different powers, beauties and strengths.

When I speak about discovering the glowing Light within your own being, I am saying that you need to discover the predominant “Dosha” or the predominant attributes of the God or the Goddess within YOU.

You need to discover which God or Goddess you are destined to manifest, and what are His or Her unique powers and forms of embodiment of the Light.

It is your holy-grail quest, for the fountain of eternal life within your very own being.

To remember who you REALLY are,
To be absorbed into the God or Goddess that is your very essence,
The God or Goddess that is at the core of all of your human incarnations- this is your life-mission here on earth.

In the “Age Of Enlightenment,” your holy mind starts to make connections that make perfect sense, and you can start to heal your life.

Your mind is no longer bound to a physical brain and so it is free to soar into the infinite Mind, to see a bigger picture beyond the illusion of Maya, beyond the veil of Samsara and beyond the illusion of time.

Your mind is capable of seeing into the far reaches of this fascinating and multidimensional Universe.

Your whole life changes in the process of your Self Discovery.
You shift your focus from survival, in which you constantly pay attention to your aches and pains, to your health, success and to the comforts of your physical body, to a higher inner purpose of solving this most fascinating universal riddle, that began with the onset of time….

Yes, you do need to find the God or Goddess within, but it might NOT be Aphrodite that you have lost….

Some women are passionate and sexual, but still they have lost Hebe, the Goddess of eternal youth within themselves, or the goddess of gentleness or the goddess of healing….
And thus they get gray and dry and sad, constantly worrying about their looks and submitting themselves to plastic surgeries and Botox injections.

Hebe, the goddess of eternal youth is within them, but they have lost all sight of her, and thus she is powerless to rejuvenate them.

Some powerful women on the earth choose to live without a man.
They do so unconsciously, but their spirit chose it for them, so they will be able to break through the ingrained stereotype in their minds, that “a woman is not complete unless a man is by her side.”

We, as a culture, have instilled in the back of our primitive minds, that a woman is naturally weak and thus she NEEDS the powers of a man, in order to survive in the world.

This damaging myth has been ingrained in all women, and those women who live alone, end up feeling unloved and lonely, constantly trying to date and be loved by someone…. Anyone.

Those women need to realize that it is an opportunity that they themselves have presented to themselves, in order to grow towards their own self-liberation from this unconscious brainwash programming.

Those women need to develop and integrate their God and Goddess powers and to bring them into harmonious balance.

Both women and men have been programmed to believe that they NEED children in order to be loved, and thus they feel damaged somehow, or they feel the need to cling to their kids, for protection from their unexamined ideas about lovability and loneliness.

An elderly woman with an unbalanced Hebe (the goddess of eternal youth) inside of her, will constantly mourn the loss of her looks, be obsessed with her hair or give her children eating disorders, if she has kids.

My dear,
You have lost sight of your Godly powers.
You have lost your ability to love
You have lost your ability to smile easily
Your capacity for joy
You have forgotten your powers to charm people and your ability to be charmed by them….

You are guarded and you think that it is wise to be so, while you perceive yourself to be living in a world that can harm you.

You have lost your ability to make Miracles and to delight in the essence of your own being….and to remind others how infinitely beautiful life TRULLY is….

And instead, you have made people fear you or leave you alone.
You have become suspicious of people and their motives,
You have developed a mistrust of the whole human race, and you have made your brothers and sisters your adversaries.

Isn’t it time to heal and to return to your true essence?

The God/Goddess within you is calling you to come home, where you belong……

So how do we fix it?
How do we stop playing subtle power games?

Stop believing that somebody else is better than you in ANY way.

Start supporting other women instead of competing with them.
Support other men as well.
Support by being kind and aware and never jealous.


You are endowed with everything you need or will ever need.
You are a glorious beautiful Goddess, won’t you let her shine?

You are a glorious handsome God, won’t you let him shine?

When the ship of YOUR LIFE sailed into the ocean of life, you were equipped with everything you would ever need for the journey!

NOBODY can ever keep anything away from you.

It is damaging to believe that somebody else is keeping your good away from you.

If somebody else is wealthy, they are NOT keeping anything away from you.

Think of people who hoard boxes full of sweaters, clothing and shoes.
Just because they keep boxes and boxes of shoes and clothing, it does not deplete the supply of shoes and clothing available at the stores.
Designers will always make new shirts and new shoes, and clothes will always be available at the stores.

So it is with beauty, power and energy.
Another person’s power does not mean that you have less, or that less power is left to be available to you.

If you are a woman, when you see another beautiful woman, do not envy her beauty.

When you feel jealousy or play subtle power games in your own mind, convincing yourself that you are smarter or more creative, because you feel that she is prettier than you, you are missing the point that when you see beauty, it is YOUR OWN BEAUTY that you look upon.

You think that SHE is the beautiful, attractive and young one, and thus you ENVY her.

But by envying the beautiful Aphrodite within her, you are repeating the same old war of the Gods, between Aphrodite and Hera or Hebe, in which you do not allow the goddess Hebe to make YOU beautiful again and to shine her light into your life.

So it is with men.
When a man sees another very handsome or charming man, he does not recognize that it is HIS OWN BEAUTY and loveliness that he looks upon, and thus he envies that attractive man.

But by this envy,
By this jealousy,
And by the power games that you play with other men, you DEPLETE YOUR OWN POWERS.

The Adonis within YOU shrinks a little more EVERY time that you envy Heracles or Hermes in another.

The God within you, let us say it is Adonis, feels less handsome, less lovable and less powerful, every time you envy another God and His powers that you see within another.

So it is with women.
When a woman envies Aphrodite in another women and craves to know her “secrets,” she SHRINKS the Goddess that lives within her.

In truth, she is saying to the Goddess within her, that she is NOT powerful enough to make her just as pretty or endlessly happy.

Let us say that the goddess within you is Lakshmi, the goddess of eternal abundance, or Hebe, the Greek goddess of eternal youth.

By being envious of Hecate (The Goddess of magic and the moon), you are blocking Lakshmi from showing up in your life, and you are minimizing her powers to flood your heart with love and happiness.

The power games that we play with one another, started WAY WAY back when we were immortal Gods.

The Greek mythology of Mount Olympus tells us that Gods always played power games with one another.

Since we fell from Divine Grace and started warring among each other over who is more powerful and more beautiful, we are bound to spend lifetimes after lifetimes on the earth, believing ourselves to be mere mortals, looking to heal the old wounds we created.

For example:
The Goddess Hera always fought with Hercules because her husband Zeus, slept with a mortal woman who gave birth to Hercules.

Hebe the goddess of eternal youth who was Hercules fourth wife, felt offended by the gods who ridiculed her for being just a minor goddess.
After all, who needs the powers of the goddess of eternal youth, when everybody is immortal and infinite?

As a result of this ridicule, Hebe pulled back her nectars and ambrosia that she used to feed to the gods, and withdrew.
The result was that the gods started getting old and feeble.

In the wholeness of Creation, every link in the chain or the puzzle, is equally important to the whole.
One missing God and everyone in Heaven suffers.

Because Aphrodite was so beautiful, other gods feared that their rivalry over her would interrupt the peace among them and lead to war, so Zeus gave her in marriage to Hephaestus, (God of fire, metalworking, stone masonry, and blacksmiths) who, because of his ugliness and deformity, was not seen as a threat to other men.

The gods also took many lovers and created power games through complicated relationships and jealousy.

Since ancient times, the gods have been reincarnating on the earth as common men and women, each seeking to heal old wounds, find their counterparts and to remember who they really are.

Let us look at an ordinary couple, Sheri and David.
When Sheri was young, Hebe was still a very strong presence within her.
She was glowing with eternal youth, although she never made any conscious contact with the Goddess within her.

With unconscious hope to be reunited with the love of her life and together to be whole again, she married Hercules, in the form of David Smith.

They both started playing the same old power games that they had played as Gods on Mount Olympus.
They took other lovers, played power games, minimized one another, manipulated and enabled all their bad attributes, instead of helping one another to refine their characters and move together towards the light.

What happens often is that David will leave to marry a younger and hopefully sweeter woman, hoping that SHE will embody HEBE, his counterpart and the goddess he once loved so much.

Or… Hebe will leave David who is temperamental, unemployed, annoying and macho, to be with another man whom she hopes will be stronger, more athletic and more endowed with the attributes of her beloved Hercules.

If they stay together and keep on playing power games, over the passing decades very little of the core Goddess and God will remain visible within either one of them.

Sheri is now old and wrinkled with only one breast, (she lost the other to breast cancer.)
Her stomach is lined with birth marks and she has grown bitter, vindictive and manipulative.

Hercules is not shining through David either.
By now, David is an impotent old man who is bitter, needy and can hardly tie his own shoes.

By now, it will take a miracle to convince either of them that they are not mere mortal beings.
That they created David and Sheri, and that they are playing roles, generated by the endless power games they engage in.
They had lost sight of their own inner light.

Anyway…. My time is short and my tasks are many.

I urge you to become more aware and to detect the power games that you might be playing, and that are being played around you.

These power games that you have been playing over many incarnations, date back to the beginning of time, and they are causing you to be unaware of whom you really are.

The games dates back to the garden of Eden…. When we forgot how beautiful the garden is and started dreaming that we were simple mortal beings…..

The gods are creative
They are the very essence of creativity.
They are poets, architects, writers, painters, sculptors, musicians, actors, dancers, athletes, script-writers, silversmiths and much more.

Even if you have lived your whole life as a professional artist, a writer or an architect, you do not stop being a creator just because you stopped getting paid to be an architect.

You should not stifle the creative Spirit within you, or you will stifle the very life force within you.
Keep on viewing yourself as a powerful creative force and channel it into many other creative pursuits, even if nobody will ever pays you a single penny to do so.

You are a Creator, so create much joy in your life, and bring peace, laughter, vitality and bliss into your heart, and remember to share it with others.

With Love and warmest blessing,

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